frequently asked questions
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We can only speak for ourselves. the sexaholic has taken himself or herself out of the whole context of what is right or wrong. He or she has lost control, no longer has the power of choice, and is not free to stop. Lust has become an addiction. Our situation is like that of the alcoholic who can no longer tolerate alcohol and must stop drinking altogether but is hooked and cannot stop. So it is with the sexaholic, or sex drunk, who can no longer tolerate lust but cannot stop.
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In defining sobriety, we do not speak for those outside Sexaholics Anonymous. We can only speak for ourselves. Thus, for the married Sexaholic, sexual sobriety means having no form of sex with self or with persons other than the spouse. For the unmarried Sexaholic, sexual sobriety means freedom from sex of any kind. And for all of us, single and married alike, sexual sobriety also includes progressive victory over lust.
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The only requirement for membership is a desire to stop lusting and become sexually sober.
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SA meetings and fellows who have formed groups can be found all over the world. If you are within the United States, you can find fellows and meetings in most major cities:
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There are no dues or fees for Sexhaholics Anonymous. We are self-supporting through our own contributions.
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It is perhaps more apt to think of Sexaholics Anonymous as a fellowship of men and women who practice a well-tested 12 step program and set of traditions for recovery.
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We have discovered that we can stop, that not feeding the hunger didn’t kill us and that sex was indeed optional.
There is hope for freedom and we are encouraged to continue turning more and more away from isolating obsession with sex and self and turn toward God and others.